31
Jul

My Classmate Ends the month of July with this Nice Thought

In your life, you’ll make note of a lot of people. Ones with whom you shared something special, ones who will always mean something. There’s the one you first kissed, the one you first loved, the one you lost your virginity to, the one you put on a pedestal, the one you’re with…and the one that got away.

Who is the one that got away? I guess it’s that person with who everything was great, everything was perfect, but the timing was just wrong. There was no fault in the person, there was no flaw in the chemistry, but the cards just didn’t fall the right way, I suppose.

I believe in the fact that ending up with someone, finding a longtime partner that is, does not lie merely in the other person. I can actually argue that an equal part, or maybe even the greater part, has to do with the matter of timing. It has to do with you being ready to settle down and commit to someone in a way that goes beyond the little niceties of giddy romance.

How often have you gone through it without even realizing it? When you’re not ready to commit in that mature manner, it doesn’t matter who you’re with, it just doesn’t work. Small problems become big; inconsequentials become dealbreakers simply because you’re not ready and it shows. It’s not that you and the person you’re with are no good; it’s just that it’s not yet right, and little things become the flashpoint of that fact.

Then one day you’re ready. You really are. And when this happens you’ll be ready to settle down with someone. He or she may not be the most perfect, they might not be the brightest star of romance to ever have burned in your life, but it’ll work because you’re ready. It’ll work because it’s the right time and you’ll make it work. And it’ll make sense, it really will.

So that day comes when you’re finally making sense of things, and you find yourself to be a different person. Things are different, your approach is different, you finally understand who you are and what you want, and you’ve become ready because the time has truly arrived. And mind you, there’s no telling when this day will come. Hopefully you’re single but you could be in a long-term relationship, you could be married with three kids, it doesn’t matter. All you know is that you’ve changed, and for some reason, the one that got away, is the first person you think about.

You’ll think about them because you’ll wonder, "What if they were here today?" You’ll wonder, "What if we were together now, with me as I am and not as I was?" That’s what the one that got away is. The biggest "What if?" you’ll have in your life.

If you’re married, you’ll just have to accept the fact that the one that got away, got away. Believe me, no matter how fairy tale you think your marriage is, this can happen to the best of us. But hopefully you’re mature enough to realize that you’re already with the one you’re with and this is just another test of your commitment, one which will just strengthen your marriage when you get past it. Sure, you’ll think about him/her every so often, but it’s alright. It’s never nice to live with a "might have been," but it happens.

Maybe the one that got away is the one who’s already married. In which case it’s the same thing. You just have to accept and know that your memories of that person will probably bring a nice little smile to your lips in the future when you’re old and gray and reminiscing.

But if neither of that is the case, then it’s different. What do you do if it’s not yet too late? Simple…find him, find her. Because the very existence of a "one that got away" means that you’ll always wonder, what if you got that one?

Ask him out to coffee, ask her out to a movie, it doesn’t matter if you’ve dropped in from out of nowhere. You’d be surprised, you just might be "the one that got away" as well for the person who is your "the one that got away."

You might drop in from out of nowhere and it won’t make a difference. If the timing is finally right, it’ll all just fall into place somehow and you know, I’m thinking, it would be a great feeling, in the end, to be able to say to someone, "Hey you, you’re the one that almost got away."

26
May

Letting Go

"Letting go is releasing others from a real or perceived guilt-arousing obligation.  It is freeing others without fear of rejection or disapproval.  It is granting to others the personal responsibility for their own lives. 

To let go isn’t to forget, not to think about, or ignore.  It doesn’t
leave feelings of anger, jealousy, or regret.  Letting go isn’t about
winning or losing.  It’s not about pride and it’s not about how you
appear, and it’s not obsessing or dwelling on the past.  Letting go
isn’t blocking memories or thinking sad thoughts, and it doesn’t leave
emptiness, hurt, or sadness.  It’s not about giving in or giving up.
Letting go isn’t about loss and it’s not about defeat.  To let go is
to cherish the memories, but to overcome and move on.  It is having
an open mind and confidence in the future.  Letting go is learning
and experiencing and growing.  To let go is to be thankful for the
experiences that made you laugh, made you cry, and made you grow.
It’s about all that you have, all that you had, and all that you will
soon gain.  Letting go is having the courage to accept change,
and the strength to keep moving.  Letting go is growing up.  It is
realizing that the heart can sometimes be the most potent remedy.
To let go is to open a door, and to clear a path and set yourself free."

16
Apr

Christmas Song by Alvin & the Chipmunks

(all right you Chipmunks! Ready to sing your song?
-I’ll say we are!
-Yeah!
-Let’s sing it now!
Okay, Simon?
-Okay!
Okay, Theodore?
-Okay!
Okay, Alvin? Alvin? ALVIN!
-OKAY!!!)

Christmas, Christmas time is near
Time for toys and time for cheer
We’ve been good, but we can’t last
Hurry Christmas, hurry fast
Want a plane that loops the loop
Me, I want a hula hoop
We can hardly stand the wait
Please Christmas, don’t be late.

Okay fellas get ready
That was very good, Simon.
-Naturally.
Very good Theodore.
-Ahhh.
Ah, Alvin, you were a little flat, watch it.
Ah, Alvin. Alvin. ALVIN!
-OKAY.

Want a plane that loops the loop
I still want a hula hoop
We can hardly stand the wait
Please Christmas, don’t be late.
We can hardly stand the wait
Please Christmas, don’t be late.

Very good, boys
-Lets sing it again! Yeah, lets sing it again!
No, That’s enough, lets not overdo it
-What do you mean overdo it?
-We want to sing it again!
Now wait a minute, boys
-Why can’t we sing it again?
-[chipmunk chatter]
Alvin, cut that out..Theodore, just a minute.
Simon will you cut that out? Boys…

07
Feb

A Review in Algebra and Calculus

Wait a minute… I have to change gears muna.  After all my debate and argumentation with my boyfriend (who happened to be a lawyer), I need to shift my brain to Math!  I was not as excellent in this field but they were interesting in my hi-skul and college years…  Can’t wait to put up my own business na as part-time (with a more than a full-time’s income).  Pressured na pressured ako.  Para bang pasan ko ang mundo.  Dati magaan naman ang pakiramdam ko.  It’s like na nde play ang work ko, nde na play ang skul ko, nde play ang lablayp ko, nde play ang rest and recreation ko.  Parang feeling ko lahat ay pabigat.  Ano bang nangyari saken?  I think I’m bogging down na.  I feel like really helping myself but I’m helpless.  Parang low-morale ako at windang na.  I want to come out.  I want to unload.  Kabibili ko lang ng gamot kasi sumisikip na ang dibdib ko.  Sabog ako kung kakausapin.  Oh my….  Feeling ko, my world is getting smaller.  =(

06
Jan

I’m posting this again: The Happy Inner Me

I’m a feminist in my own connotation. If, for others, it means getting equal rights with men in the workplace or in the household or just anywhere, for me, I think it is about allowing ourselves to be treated with reverence because we are women. It’s about getting respect as a woman and respect for our feminine ways. We are different from men but that doesn’t make us less intelligent or less capable as individuals.

My strength is not so obvious because I appear gentle and sometimes shy? Or meek and silent? Or sweet, bubbly and being lusted at? Hahaha! My strength comes out when I need it. I am a difficult person to pacify if I really think I am right. Theory makes me wise but it is life’s experiences that make me wiser. I don’t believe in the saying, “Find out what makes you happy & follow whatever your heart tells you. They may call you crazy but at least you’re a happy crazy person & not a lonely empty wise person”. I say, that line is like choosing between two rubbish options. What I believe in is, “I’d rather be a happy wise person & not a lonely empty crazy.”

I admire the refined personality of Karen Judd, Lucy Torres, Amanda Griffin and Kate Koch; the vibrant personality of Anne Hathaway, Jessica Alba, Britney Spears and Katherine Williams; the elegance of Angela Mackay; the eloquence of Tiana Harilela; the spirituality of Lucy Torres and Gary V; the physical beauty of J.Lo, Demi Moore, Sandra Bullock, Beyonce, Keira Knightley and Paris Hilton; the chic personality of Shu Qi, Tonette Aldes and Ging Abal; the sexy personality of Angelina Jolie, Aishwarya Rai, Jennifer Garner, Gabrielle Reece and the famous Russian lawn tennis players; the leadership qualities of Mr. Masayuki Ohba, Mr. David Tieng and my parents; the strong personality of my blood relations.

Finally, I respect the innocence of children. I have compassion on persons experiencing emotional drawback and who seek my help. I don’t only see them as they are but also who they can be. At times, I only have composure toward the persons who offend me because, by personal statistics, it’s Him and Karma that pursues them and their loved ones. I believe that before getting into a relationship, one has to make sure that he or she is happy with himself because he/she needs to bring himself as a whole person into a relationship rather than go with another person to make him whole. Otherwise, one will become an insecure and a discontent partner in his/her lifetime. In the matter of letting go of someone, I know how good he is and I know how much the other things mean to him. I just don’t want him spend his life wondering what could have been. A sexy man for me is someone who is morally sound and upright thus having self-control. And of course, someone who is intelligent and brave (and taller than me; hehehe).

25
Nov

Kahit Naman Ako, Affected Din

One may ask why the rest of the world is so bothered by the weakening of the USD value this year?

Historically, the international monetary system established at Bretton Woods just before the end of World War II set the value of the USD in terms of gold.  The values of all the other major currencies were then stated in terms of the USD.  The practical reasons for the continuing central position of the USD are the several functions it has come to perform in the world.  It is the main central reserve asset of many countries.  It is the most used vehicle currency for international trade and investment.  Among the reasons why the US$ is in great demand worldwide is its universal acceptance.  If one travels internationally with USDs, the currency is welcome everywhere. 

In the light of the weakening USD, foreign creditors and suppliers may become reluctant to accept the said currency.  An increasing volume of world trade denominated in other currencies would cause losses for American companies and banks.  Politically, pressures could build up for protectionism, exchange controls, or restrictions on capital flows.  A large debtor country of US could not remain a major reserve currency economic power for long, and America’s power to affect world events would erode. 

I now foresee how headaching is the career path ahead of me.  As part of finance team of an international company, I have to be aware of many financial forces that originate outside the company.  But even for such forces, the concerns of the domestic manager are of a different magnitude than the concerns of an international manager because the domestic manager has to cope with only one country, whereas the international manager has to cope with two or more countries.  The same may be said of accounting principles, which differ widely from country to country.  Fluctuating currency exchange rates, currency controls, forex risks, government policies on international payments, tariffs are almost uniquely international problems that I encounter in my everyday work.  Special mention of China’s onerous and complex requirements and procedures.  I’m lucky I don’t bear much of its burden.  Our Beijing office happily handles that.  The devaluation of USD made me think to shift to depositing in GBP.  I am tempted to tell my clients to pay in GBP.  I remember myself incurring a loss due to fluctuating exchange rate of USD.  Nakakabuset as in.  Carelessness was also my fault.  I didn’t anticipate the risk. 

USD, the “world’s vehicle currency” which is able to control global economic momentum is now undergoing a downward direction.  This is in the light of the weakening of the greenback as the US Federal Reserve cuts rates aimed at draining liquidity problem out of America.  The underlying question is:  Is the US$ still the world currency?  For me, yes it is still the world currency because it still corners bulk of the world’s trade transactions.  But its status is shaky as seen in the months of decline.  This status, so to speak, may change depending on the move of US Fed and other central banks globally in the future. 

China Central Bank’s statement saying that the dollar is losing its status as the world currency, for me, is both based on plain observation and an economic strategy  (be it intentionally or not).  It’s natural for them to say something like that because China is a fast growing economy and needs more and more raw materials for its production and consumption.  Naturally, since most of the trade is expressed in dollars, the devaluation of the greenback will always be positive for their purchases.  That is, more raw materials sold in USD could be purchased with Yuan Renminbi.

Almost the same thing, French President Nicolas Sarkozy was quoted saying, “The dollar cannot remain someone’s else’s problem.  If we are not careful, monetary disarray could morph into economic war.  We would all be its victims”.  I agree with him.  Yes, the USD is America’s currency but remains to be majority of other countries’ problem.  Mr. Sarkozy’s statement, in my opinion, is that central banks should now begin to have a standby fallback in any case that the dollar continues to plunge.  The scenario assumed here is that Europe and/or Asia would dominate the world trade and these two continents would determine the world economic growth.  On that framework of thinking, central banks are also advised to have enough reserves of a stronger currency, one perceived to be the next world currency.  Then, we go back to trade volumes and demand.  Countries such as China and the oil-rich states in the Middle East are considering diversifying its foreign exchange reserves out of USD and into other currencies.  They have accumulated vast piles of dollar assets that are now losing value.  They may not totally dump USD but they learn that an alternative global currency needs to be in place in the long-term.  Iran, for example, has been lobbying to the group of petro-states to look at the option of pricing OPEC oil with reference to basket of currencies rather than USD alone. 

Households don’t like saving a currency that won’t hold its value.  Companies don’t like to establish globally-networked offices bases on a unit of account that fluctuates unstably.  Thus, the affected countries are contemplating on diversifying their currency reserves.

Export oriented companies are also facing the USD depreciation.  The falling dollar is a headache for the US-export-oriented firms as it drags down their export earnings.  In this view, the strategy is to diversify export destination.  Europe is a good market to penetrate to begin with. 

I find it not impossible for countries other than US to slow down, or worst, stop using the USD.  To keep the dollar status as a world currency, its value should remain high.  It’s in the Fed’s decision along with the movements of other central banks.  As countries continue to diversify the denomination of their reserves vis-à-vis growing China and Europe, retaining the US currency as the world currency is harder this time.  The subprime crisis must be a lesson to big spenders (like me sometimes).

Last year, I told my prof that the USD exchange rate will even go down to P48.  Now, it is even beyond 48.  I wonder if my prof pushed through withdrawing his USD account from the bank.  The last reply he said was “Please wag lang sanang bumaba pa.”

Another field that I am keeping an eye on is International Law.  I thank God I found a rescue.  My husband will take care of that.  Hehehe.  Mwah!

18
Nov

Smiling

I’m excited to get married…..   Ooops, exclusive to family lang ang invited.    =)   

09
Nov

Leading to a Fruitfuil Life - I Wanna Take that Path

The analysis, published yesterday by the Office for National Statistics, says marriage is associated with better health, particularly for men. Women who are or have been married and have children are the healthiest, unless they are lone parents, who are significantly more likely to suffer a long-term illness. Divorce and separation are also associated with poor health.

Saying I do has its share of pros and cons.

These pros and cons are tailored to the concept of whether or not we are the marrying types or the “bachelor forever” types. We can come up with the pros, but it all depends on which side of the fence we’re in.

If you’re the marrying type and crave a lifetime of companionship, the pros of marriage are:

  • Emotional stability
  • Marital security
  • Mutual sharing of likes and dislikes
  • Growth, education, self-improvement
  • The chance to rear children so that they may continue the family heritage
  • Moral and psychological support

Now, the cons…

  • A growing sense of a lack of freedom
  • An increasing distate for responsibilities
  • A nagging feeling that one’s hopes and dreams have been shattered by marriage
  • Ever-increasing pressures of family and home life (mortgage, career, finances, etc) that erode love
  • Losing one’s individuality
  • Feelings of deprivation

Mas matimbang saken ang pros.  I want to convert into opportunity what everybody else considers dangerous.  I consider myself lucky.  I finally found my peace and now ready to take off.   This is my choice… for life.  Bow  =)

28
Oct

That Foreign Exchange Thing

Gisapooooooot jud ko ani!

28
Oct

Break

Yes! I need a break.  A Halloween Break.  Karon lang domingoha perte nakong sapot.  Gisapot ko sa MRT, gisapot ko sa megamall, sa mga tindera, ambot. 

I’ll go to the gym tomorrow and kick asses.